Fall Inks









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In other news, in this beautiful fall weather, Caleb started preschool last week, along with the throngs of other boys and girls returning to classrooms, and he seems to have adjusted just fine. We've delayed his birthday celebration to give him some time to settle into his new routine, but he doesn't seem to have noticed. I was worried he'd be crying and feeling abandoned with all of these new and enthusiastic strangers (he's not really a kid who embraces enthusiasm from strangers), and it turns out he was pretty okay. Now it's turned into one of those weird things where I see other kids crying when I drop him off, and I ask myself if Caleb is doing okay because he's not crying like those other kids. A large part of parenting seems to be looking at what other kids and parents are doing and wondering if I'm supposed to be doing that too. I've also adjusted just fine, although Super is now enjoying a tremendous amount of redirected affection and love. I have to admit at first I was a bit lost without the padding of feet and yelling and accidental spills around me, but I've come to embrace these hours of freedom I have - although in these first weeks it seems mostly to be have been taken up by catching up on errands and emails, what seems like more than a few appointments and cleaning the apartment. Jon and I are left to wonder about and over-analyze the slightly bizarre ramblings he brings home to us: he talks about monkeys and Santa Claus, eating bread and water for lunch, the rituals of using a communal bathroom. I admit to being guilty of bringing him to the park after preschool and holding some slightly intense interrogations under the guise of casually sitting on a bouncy turtle. He's the only Asian kid in his class, and I'm not sure if that means anything - I mean, at what age do you teach him that some parts of him that are different are because he's Asian and we should be proud of that, and that other parts are different because his mama is just a little weird? Jon says I need to tone down the weird so Caleb can fit in a bit better. I hope the other kids are kind. In any case, I now officially have a preschooler. Time marches on.
Comments
Alvin said:
The NYT has you covered re: the race question: https://mobile.nytimes.com/blogs/parenting/2012/04/04/the-danger-of-not-talking-to-your-children-about-race/
wonderpens said:
Wow, thanks so much for sharing that article! Jon and I are both “third culture” kids, sort of straddling two worlds, and I’m realizing more and more how important even our third culture can be. There is so much to think and talk about when it comes to teaching our children about race and about our family’s cultures and I love that this article talks about some important ideas.
sandra said:
I think Caleb will be fine. It’s natural for a mama to worry, but growing up around a retail shop he’s probably had a lot more exposure to other people than some kids his age.
He’ll discover soon enough that he’s different from the kids in his class in some ways, but until then, he’ll get a chance to discover what he has in common with them, which is a wonderful thing for a tiny human to learn!
wonderpens said:
You’re right, both the customers but also especially the staff he sees every day are such a blessing to have. Caleb is quite a shy kid, but he loves routines and to help, so I’m hoping as he adjusts to preschool, he will find his own place. It’s so crazy to see him grow from a baby to, as you say, a tiny human!
wonderpens said:
Hah! You know me too well, that you should give me congratulations for a milestone I think many other mamas may weather with substantially more grace than I.
I know just what you mean – even those big box stores of office supplies make me nostalgic for back to school shopping and all the excitement of a new year. Hope you are enjoying the Amethyste de l’Oural!
Ruth E. Martin said:
Congratulations on weathering this milestone. :)
Fall is my favourite season, too, and I’m making good use of my autumnal inks! (Does Amethyste de l’Oural count as autumnal?) I still eye up all the back to school materials with nostalgia, even after all these years.
LisaRR said:
Just as a casual blog reader I am sure Caleb is going to care about the important things – taking time to correspond with a friend, using good materials, and making your own way in the world, among others …
Glad he is enjoying (or at least not complaining) about pre-school!
wonderpens said:
I hope you’re right! He certainly knows his way around a fountain pen :)
And yes, he does seem to be enjoying it, and learning lots!